Shoot for the Stars but it is OK to settle for the Moon…..

June 11, 2010

Thanks to my two WONDERFUl gorgeous co-horts (sp?) at work (Miss Falyn and Miss Joy)…….I was able to leave early (to prep for carpet cleaner)…to move furniture out of Ankit’s room ….the MB in my house…he, as I think you know returned to India last night…but left TONS of stuff….

I was sad …to see him go …as I have been with all of my roommates….an amazing man all of 23…returning to India to work for his father in his paving company…and to have his parents pick out his bride…

he spent last week in Vegas…and said it went too fast and was one of the BEST weeks he has spent in the US …since his arrival 5 years ago .. (he went to Ohio University).

…he said his time here was either the end of a Book or just the end of a Chapter…..I wrote back and said at 23 …it is JUST the BEGINNING of the BOOK ..you will have many children and grandchildren…..and a Very Happy Life…with the normal challenges….

I got back home and put (the backbrace thingy on that you see Costco workers wearing)….which DOES help….was going to move the queen size bed out to the hall…and after flipping it a few times I thought the Hell with this…let the carpet cleaners just shove it from one side of the room to the other)….and was amazed at how much dust collects……even though Isabel does a more thorough cleaning than I could…..God Bless her…she has been with me for almost 30 years….

I felt a bit of pressure since I am anal and like things perfect….. as I had a response to my email rental IMMEDIATELY after I posted it.on Craig’s list …….from a “Maria”…whose last name sounded Russian…my mental images stored in my brain went immediately to an older Russian lady who pushed her shopping cart into me … at Ralph’s last week…and did not apologize…actually I don’t think she realized she did it….as she was quite elderly …..

so when I first saw Maria’s response….and getting many fake responses from Nigeria……I thought…just “SPAM” it….but then since she mentioned she was 33 and graduated from Yale…..I thought WTF……

she emailed back immediately said she would be over at 6…….

which turned me into a whirling dervish mode after the FABULOUS carpet cleaner left …(my god I thought I would have to replace all the carpet…and I have 35 steps he told me)….what he did was sooo much better than any carpet cleaner before….was so sweet and SOO much cheaper than any others…found him on Angie’s List…..

well he left at 4 which gave me 2 hours to pull the room back together…I had been washing the duvet and comforter and sheets and towels since last night…and oh that Fing mattress cover that is sooo important……and put EVERYTHING back together…lamps…lampshades…lord they get dusty…..and man shoving a comforter into a duvet cover is a TOTAL bitch……it is such a juggling process…..shaking and smoothing….still don’t like the way it hangs on the bed..so another project for tomorrow besides more cleaning and touch up painting (thank G that Ankit did NOT hang anything on the walls)….

my cell rang at 5:51….I answered …”Hi Rob…this is Maria and I am in the courtyard…but do not know which is your unit….” I was amazed that she was soo punctually early….but told her I would be right down….

well when I opened the door….well this is weird…she was WHOM I expected in the deep recesses of my mind….

She is BEAUTIFUL…in the wonderful old way of truly Handsome women….she is like 6 feet – slender – with these gorgeous brown eyes…..and shoulder length chestnut hair….

.I felt like I had known her forever ..like a sister ….she reminds me of Charlotte from “Sex In The City”..she was accompanied by a chunkier -shorter – almost anemic blonde woman…who seemed maybe Slavic…and was quite subservient …I mean she seemed shy to look me in the eyes…..don’t know what their relationship is…

When she entered my flat she said “OHHH this is SOO Beautiful”…. a comment I have never had from the men I have rented to…….

she loved the place…and wondered if I would come down in rent…I said yes $50 for 6 months and $100 for a year….but I don’t see her lasting a year…as every man in the world must be struck by her beauty….and I see her married in less than a year…..

what I loved MOST about her was her love for BOOKS…(which is MY passion)… as she asked if I could move all the books I have on the shelves out….as one of her passions is reading …I said THAT is TOTALLY refreshing as it just seems people do NOT care to read actual books anymore……

she said she would contact me over the weekend…

BUT….though I am a dreamer….I usually imagine the WORST (or is it worse?) can happen….ever since I found out my grandparents (whom I never knew)..were wintering in Florida back in I think the 30’s … were burned to death in their chauffeur driven car they were in…..that hit a gasoline truck ….due to a storm that knocked down electric lines across the road….it was a fire ball….my grand was burnt almost immediately…my grandfather…lived long enough for my dad to go down to see him in the hospital…and to win a ping pong tournament …as he ..like most of us hate death and being around hospitals….

.anyway since that story I IMAGINE the worse ..(or is it worst)…..when I pass a gas truck..I see my car exploding………meeting a new lover .etc etc…

it prepares me for a surprise of Happiness…

my point is …I DON’T imagine Maria taking this …cuz she is …well she is the kind of a woman if I was…straight .. I would be after her in a flash…but KNOWING there was no chance in Hell.that I could get her………..but being gay she could be a close friend….as all of my roommate have become…

at the end of the day it has been quite wonderful…a vision of beauty….a STRONG woman….(you know my LOVE for STRONG WOMEN!!! that started way way back as a child watching Sophia Loren in “Two Women” .)….

ohh and then the cream on the cake,this eve, was going down to the Village Idiot…which is at the end of my street..my favorite pub……and seeing my favorite waitress…..Susannah…who just makes everyone smile…she hugged me and bought me a brew…and then Dean (an Aussie) …one of the owners came up and welcomed me….and MAN that place was jumping at 6….they open now at 6:30 AM (as opposed to noon) due to the World Cup…they have two 72″ screens….Susannah said it was TOTAL madness at 7AM today….I wish I could go tomorrow when the US plays England…but have to paint….and clean up Maria’s (scoozie) room…..but will go down Sunday at 6:30 AM…as the ENERGY in that place is infectious …everyone from children of 5 running around to grandparents to the most beautiful 20 somethings you can gaze at…..

SERIOUSLY …..LIFE IS WHAT we all BELIEVE IT TO BE…..and yet EVEN MORE!!!!

Keep the Dance Going and the Fire Lit!!!!!!

2 Responses to “Shoot for the Stars but it is OK to settle for the Moon…..”

  1. Tod Jonson said

    Rob, what a fabulous essay……filled with all kinds of interesting things and divulging open end sides of grandure. YOU just have to be one of the greatest guys on earth……..

    Life here without Ektor is really a nightmare. I can not shake his passing. The nights are so long and I find myself talking with him in the middle of the night. I am just trying to overcome the depression that seems to have set in and torments me day and night. I am so glad that in 46 years Ektor and I never had an argument. I have absoutely nothing to regret in that area. What I do regret is his passing. He should have, and could have, taken me with him. I would easily have gone. Where he goes I would also go without even a moments hesitation.. Life is going to be mighty lonely without the laughter and the hugs and the deep devotion that was shared.

    Great and wonderful luck with Maria as your newest room mate. I will ask Ektor to guard over you and make this initial take be the same at the end of the relationship. Ektor is good at that sort of thing. He was good at every sort of thing.

    Rob, please stay close……….life is a drag without close friends.

    love and hugs, Tod

  2. Michelle said

    Yes, I agree with Ektor……this was a wonderful read Rob. You write very visually. I would know Maria anywhere. Thank God for you and your insight into the world.
    Tod, I am so sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing someone you have loved all your life. Try thinking about how Ektor would want you to live the rest of your life and do that instead of spending so much time missing him and mourning him. Take him in your heart and do what feels good to you. Ektor will make sure that you are not alone. I’m just sayin’…….
    Loving life and those who are living it, afterall this might be the only one I get!
    Michelle

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