DON’T take….ships that pass in the night… for granted..otherwise u will have missed out on LIFE……

August 14, 2010

just had dinner at one of my fave restaurants…Galanga……Thai….I spoke with the man with whom I have developed a friendship over the years with ….we were talking about our week…..he had been extremely busy…buying iPhones for friends in Thailand….who are willing to pay almost anything as they are not available there yet ……he can only buy like one…and made $30.00 on it….he does not own one…..he had bought the same day a bookcase from Ikea – but because his car is so small they had to slide it between the windows in the back seat…and it stook (yeah not a real work but I like it) out a lot…on both sides of the car…which made it look like a vehicle in Thailand……..

and we talked about the Mosque being planned near Ground Zero….and the ridiculousness of people’s fears……I asked him..”Sean WHY don’t we EVER read about wars that Buddhists have started…it is always us Christians, Jews, Muslims….”

he said “Well Rob….we have a saying …and I don’t know how to express it in English …but it is basically….if you have a stone in your hand and it starts to get warm and then hot and hotter….well you throw it out past the lake of your existence……and that applies to any negative thinking that comes your way…..”

I said….” I understand more in your simple statement than you will know…thank you…”

A co-worker died yesterday….totally unexpected….he was a genius and one of those odd – eccentric characters that I totally identify with as I have alway thought I WAS the “odd one”…..I always sat back in awe of him until I got up the nerve to ask him out for lunch…..turns out we had a lot in common…as he was in awe of Tony Duquette – a designer who I knew quite well as he lived across the street on Keith from my first lover and I in West Hollywood….

and then he admired Don Bachardy….and his lover Chris Isherwood…who were also friends of my first lover Paul….and I sat for Don for drawing back in the 70’s…twice nude……which was NOT a physically pleasant experience….it is odd but I cleaned one of my bookcases last weekend and came across two books that Chris had autographed and when I saw John…last week in passing and smiling at each other in the hallway…I wanted to ask him if he would like Chris’s book …”And His Kind”…I SOO REGRET that i did not..

John dressed a bit on the eccentric side…different than the norm….like a white suit with an orange shirt and orange shoes….I remember years and years ago…when I worked in the Parking Permit section….Dennis Black …said to me “Look at that Bozo…”… I looked up and saw John…and thought Dennis….if you had the Brilliance – the genius of THAT man you would not be sitting down here at the permit counter….

(Dennis did not last long)

John finally had the Extreme happiness of having a lover….which sort of surprised me….as I thought with his talent and uniqueness ..he would have had a slew of them…but he said he just had not truly loved himself enough… …I was soo happy for him and Jonathan……

If I had not had the balls to become friends with Jimbo …my best friend…who was murdered as you know in my apartment….I frankly would not have loved (platonically) as I did – with a man that taught me sooo much…took me to my first Jack in the Box…took me to an all Gay Black nightclub where we danced our asses off…we were “spots” then…..he was the greatest LOVE of my LIFE…..there is not a day that goes by that I don’t think about him….I soo MISS him…..

so my point is GIVE each day as much as you can to your friends – waiters – people that you encounter…as you NEVER know when they might …not be there any longer!!!!!

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