Happiness

July 14, 2012

Today I worked at an event the city does now once a year…an e-waste and shredding festival….it is one of the many  “Happy” events the city does…as everyone is so overly content to get rid of their needless old electronic items…and to watch their old tax returns shredded by these  garbage size trucks…..

one woman…who drove in without hitting anything…must have been like 90…she was driving a VERY old car that belched a lot of smoke…..to hear her I had to lean into the car….she had a small plastic bag with items she wanted shredded ….she had a wonderful glint in her eyes….and after I told her what line to get into…she said “Oh these are for all of you….as I REALLY appreciate what you are doing”..

.she handed me a box of donuts…..

well….she REALLY made my day…as for her to take the time to buy a box of donuts…..at her age…touched me deeply….

and the remarks from a lot of the other people were so wonderful….one young guy and girl….well she was strikingly GORGEOUS….

she said “I just want you to KNOW how much we appreciate this!!!”

and I saw a lot of people that have come through in years past…one very chic woman who must be in her 60’s who AWLAYS seems to have the latest Benz…..reached out and smilingly touched my hand  saying…”Its so good to see you again”….

it is an event I WILL never miss….

There was an article in last week’s Sunday New York Times…”Don’t Indulge. BE Happy.” and all I can say is that it TOTALLY hit home with me..

It basically says that if you make $75,000. a year…well there is no reason to go beyond that number….as they found out from research that “the beneficial effects of money tapered off entirely after that”.. amount.

and why do so many of us go on trying to make more….the article says…”our ideas about the relationship between money and happiness are misguided”

here is the link to the article: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/08/opinion/sunday/dont-indulge-be-happy.html?_r=1&pagewanted=all

I had a wonderful time at one point talking to our new security (the city’s) guard…Victor….his stories ..well are like all families…and people in the economic situation we are in ….he is a paralegal..was let go from that job…worked for the City of LA…before they had to do massive cutbacks…

..he is in his 30’s I think…has two children…is one of like 6 kids…his mother died like 4 years ago…his Dad had a heart seizure not too long ago…and was hospitalized for like (sorry for using THAT word so much)…..a week…and one night as Victor was visiting his Father…a woman who was quite made up passed by twice as Victor looked out from the room….and he thought well she is NOT a nurse…WHO is she…and then Victor’s older brother called him to come home (?)…bascially to get him out of their Dad’s room…..so Victor left…BUT when he got to the parking lot he forgot he had left something in his father’s room….and went back to find THAT woman talking to his Dad…

he later asked his brother WHY did he get him to leave…then later he asked his Dad…who she was…his Dad who is 70 something said she is someone who comes over to help clean my house…..

n Victor thought “YEAH!!!” with all that makeup on…….

he said he understood WHY his father would not talk to him about his new girlfriend…as he had mourned the passing of Victor’s mother for 4 years…but what he DID not understand was why a brother 4 years older would NOT tell him the truth….

at then end of the day…you have to Love yourself….which took me like 40 years….as then  you will NOT care what other people think…and just let them be THEMselves (is that a word)…..

I mean we are all “crazy” in our own way…due to family and society…..

like me…I who summered in the woods of Wisconsin since I was born.,…. have a VERY strong fondness for small toads…that I use to find in the woods…..I don’t know…there is something about small things I am VERY defensive about….

but when you reach the point where you are happy with yourself…………. THEN you CAN give back to others ….

it is NOT  money…(actually being wealthy can be   a hindrance)….but the small  things that can bring unexpected  intense happiness

That little old 90 year old lady in her ancient smoke belching  car…taking time out to buy Donuts (which was probably a lot of money for her)……..for   people whom she DID NOT know….

well I will remember  her for the rest of my life……………..

2 Responses to “Happiness”

  1. I love reading your blog, Rob. Your stories bring everyday experiences to life, with all the expressive texture of being there.

  2. Gray G. James said

    Been enjoying all your vignettes – looking forward to seeing you at the 50th! Still riding bikes – lots of vignettes there too. Cheers, Gray

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